What if your soulmate isn’t your best friend? Brett Goldstein asks the question in ‘All of You’

Brett Goldstein might want to break your heart. Or at least give you a proper ugly cry.

In the new film “All of You,”streaming on Apple TV+ Friday, audiences are presented with a sticky conundrum: What if your soulmate, and your best friend, were different people?

Reactions might differ about the choices Simon (Goldstein) and Laura (Imogen Poots) make in the film, which is a kind of rom-com-dram, if you will. But one thing Goldstein has noticed is that a lot of people who see it think that it’s about them.

“I think everyone has this friendship,” Goldstein said. “There’s someone in their life that is not their partner that they have a connection that feels more than friends, but what is that? What is love? And does it take away from the other? We just wanted to explore all of that over time.”

The idea came out of a getting to know you conversation with William Bridges, an Emmy winner for “Black Mirror” whose episodes include “USS Callister.” He co-wrote the film with Goldstein, and directed. At the time of the chat, Goldstein was single. Bridges was not. And Goldstein asked him if the woman he was seeing was “the one.” It got them thinking about the idea of a soulmate test, something that could just take all the guesswork, all the bad dates, all the lost time, out of the equation.

“All of You” begins with a moment of truth as Simon accompanies Laura, his best friend from university, on her way to take the test. He even pays for it, and soon enough she’s off making plans with a husband to be.

Though the film has a bit of a science fiction element to it, it’s decidedly less dystopian than a “Black Mirror.” Some, like Laura, take the test. Some, like Simon, try to do it the old-fashioned way. But many are left wondering if they made the right choice. The film is told linearly, but skips over months and sometimes years in the saga of Laura and Simon.

“I was really conflicted, but I also felt great compassion for each of the characters,” Poots said. “All a person is the choices they make or don’t make, and I think that feelings and desire and love, these are completely out of your control. And I don’t think you can vilify a person for sort of having them. It’s just when they follow through it obviously complicates things.”

Part of the equation involved making sure that Laura’s soulmate, and husband, wasn’t easy to dismiss. Not only did they write him as kind, loving and a good father. They also cast a handsome Scottish actor, Steven Cree, to play him.

“One thing we didn’t want to do that I think romantic comedies do a lot is they make the other guy boring or a (expletive)-head. So you’re going, ‘Oh, obviously not him,’” Goldstein said. “You have to kind of stack the odds against all of them because that is more real and it’s much more challenging, I think, for an audience because I think you are going ‘I want this thing to happen and I also don’t want this thing to happen.’”

“When Harry Met Sally” was a kind of unintentional touchstone in thinking about the idea of friendships between straight men and women that only became clear to them after they made the film. An even less intentional reference was “Atonement.” Unbeknownst to the filmmakers, they set a pivotal scene between Laura and Simon in the same cottage on the English Channel in East Sussex that Joe Wright used for his classic tearjerker.

While movie fans might bemoan the lack of the Nora Ephron-style romantic comedies of the 1990s on our screens, modern movies are grappling with the state of relationships in serious, satirical and genre-skewing ways, with films like “Materialists,”“Splitsville,” “All of You” and more. The distinction, Bridges said, is perhaps audiences today are craving stories not about aspirational, unattainable romance, but about love — however complicated and messy it might be.

“We have seen the movie where somebody runs to the train station at the end and confesses undying love and the movie ends and the idea is they live happily ever after. But I’m not quite sure that that’s the experience of love that a lot of people have,” Bridges said. “I think they’re looking for love stories rather than romance stories.”